Allow your family to become reacquainted
First off, allow your family to become reacquainted. Talk to each other about everything to ensure you are all on the same page. Save all the drama and negative energy and replace it with love, trust, and support for one another. You don’t need your family member, who has been away, to come home and deal with some bad vibe you are putting on. If there’s any family member unwilling to cooperate, he or she need not be present around the service member. All of you need to readjust, period.
Service member needs to align with the family changes
Second, the service member should align with the changes that have occurred in the family while the service member was away. Children may be in new grades, and relatives may have gotten married and moved to another city; there might be new additions to the family and deaths. Understanding and accepting these changes will help you cope together as a family and get any necessary help.
Don’t force the service member into anything
Once the service member gets home, remember not to force them into anything. It is also always advisable not to throw a big party on the first day of their arrival. Rather, key family members and relatives should be present as this is a time for family bonding. Most times, service members feel overwhelmed upon their arrival, so they need time to get their thoughts and emotions together. These can last a few days or weeks in extreme cases. The war may have impacted the service member’s mental well-being, so they need to be given time to gather everything together. Whatever the situation may be, ensure that the service member is fully in the right place of mind to meet every other relative.
Ensure the service member is in good health
Finally, it is the duty of the family to ensure the service member is in good health. Take them to a therapy or a mental health counselor to talk about their experiences and lessons. This is necessary for situations where the service member becomes reserved after their return. They need to talk it out, so hiring a therapist’s services is always a great idea. This helps to remove and improve mental stress. Remember to always be at their side no matter the situation. Listen carefully and pay attention to whatever they tell you. At the end of the day, these service members deserve to live a happy life upon return.
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